The root of healing, of feeling like a fully adult person, is not trying to make anything go away… If you’re going to be fully mature, you will no longer be imprisoned by the childhood feeling that you always need to protect yourself… because things are too harsh. If you’re going to be a grown up —which I define as being completely at home in your world no matter how difficult the situation —it’s because you will allow something already in you to grow, be nurtured, come out, instead of shielding and protecting it.