Wisdom from the Kabbalah on Death and Grieving
Because the true bond between a parent and child or a husband and wife is a spiritual one, it remains intact and strong after death.
Mourning also helps us retain this bond, for the soul of a departed person, eternal and intact, watches over the people with whom she was close.
Every gracious act give her great pleasure and satisfaction, particularly when such acts are committed in a manner that she taught whether by instruction or by example.
Her soul is fully aware of what is happening to the friends and relatives she has left behind.
The soul is distressed when they experience undue grief or depression, and rejoices when they move beyond their initial pain and continue to build their lives and inspire those around them.
When family and friends supplement their customary good deeds with further virtuous acts on behalf of the departed, they continue the work of his or her soul.