manifesto for tender collaborative work:

•EMBRACE AND SUPPORT ONE ANOTHER FULLY. YOU ARE AT YOUR BEST WHEN YOU FEEL ACCEPTED.

•DON’T COMPARTMENTALIZE. BE YOUR FULL SELF AND BRING THAT INTO YOUR WORK.

•MOLD THE STRUCTURE OF YOUR WORK AROUND THE PEOPLE THAT ARE A PART OF IT.

•BE TENDER TO YOUR COLLABORATOR’S IDENTITIES, EXPERIENCES, AND DAILY CHALLENGES.

•KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON IN YOUR COLLABORATOR’S LIVES. DON’T ASSUME YOUR PROJECT IS THEIR FIRST PRIORITY AT ALL TIMES.

•UNIVERSAL LOVE. PICK UP THE EXTRA SLACK WHEN NEEDED.

•THE PRODUCT IS NEVER MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE PROCESS OR THE RELATIONSHIP.

•EMBRACE DIFFERENCE! WE ARE DIFFERENT, LET’S ADDRESS OUR DIFFERENCES DIRECTLY.

•PAID TIME. CREATIVE FREEDOM. FEMME-CENTRIC SPACE.

•TRUST THE PROCESS AND TRUST THE PEOPLE. MAKE SPACE FOR EACH OTHER’S QUIRKS.

•KNOW AND EMBRACE YOUR OWN SUBJECTIVITY. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS BEING OBJECTIVE.

•NO HIERARCHY. NO ONE SHOULD HAVE MORE CONTROL THAN SOMEONE ELSE.

•LET GO OF CONTROL. TRY STEPPING INTO A SUPPORTIVE ROLE.

•LET YOURSELF BE VULNERABLE.

you need to shed your digital identity if you want to stop being called back to represent it online

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Consider the fact that being on Insta for a long time means you have fostered a digital identity. You might find it more fulfilling to share your travels to your Instagram instead of a new account because it boosts your digital identity. On Instagram you don't just travel - once you start posting about it you are a traveller, and that is very validating.

Honestly if you want to be a mysterious offline person, you have to lose your digital identity. It's a part of the "going offline" experience but if it is holding you back then it might help to know what to expect.

Losing it would have a couple of landmarks you can look out for...

1. You realise there is a filter over your POV. You see something beautiful and reach for your phone to share a pic, but there is nowhere to share the pic to. Maybe you still take the picture. It feels like everything you see is auditioning to be posted.

2. The impulse to share gets quieter and quieter. you realise nothing changed when you didn’t make that post, but for some reason you can’t really remember what the post was going to be about, and you dont even remember which picture it was :O

3. Maybe you stop taking pictures, since there is no where to put them. You stop looking at the world with the rule of thirds and start taking in the whole scene. The temperature, the sounds, the peripherals, all become parts of the moments. You realise why you'd never be able to fully capture it. Bonus, your memory of these moments is getting stronger.

4. Anything can be a moment. Since the beautiful moments don’t have to be visual anymore, you catch them everywhere, the feeling of walking on a nice sandy beach, the song of the birds on your walk to work in the morning, the smell of the bakery you walk past every day.

5. Finally you start to know these beautiful moments are for you. They are yours, you don’t have to share them with anyone else. they turn into kind of like mindful moments instead. You can slow down and take the whole moment in.

[…] You'll have a couple months where you’ll want to tell everyone to do what you did and they tell you you are preachy (this might just be me). Then everyone says “OMG I could never do that but good for you” when you say “Sorry, I’m offline, can you give me your phone number instead.”

what does 'being worthy to be online' mean to you?

posting for yourself and not for others.

capturing vs documenting
- capturing = trying to bottle up magic, something to be cherished
- documenting = trying to be seen, something to be perceived

curating inspiration, not curating a persona.

social media as a place to play, experiement
posting can feel big but remind yourself that nothing you post is defining
a post is just a glimpse.

"it's not about making the video, it's about sharing the thought"

being online is just a vehicle to share a glimpse of yourself into the ether
to share something that was touched by your human hands, your human heart.

digital crumbs from the whole pie.